"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Advice needed now im out of the freindship zone

Raoul Duke

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Hey there,

Been really close friends with this girl for 2 years now and we've realised we both like each other. She wants us to go out on a date to see how things go. The only problem is as we've been friends for so long, going out for a drink or a meal whatever is just going to seem repeative.

My idea is this, and please provide advice whether you think its a good or bad idea: A couple of months ago we were considering going to a safari park for the day but it never materialized. Do you reckon this is would be the perfect idea for a first date or do you guys think it would be a bit too much too soon?

Also, is it a good idea to make it a bit of a suprise as i have an idea of how to ask her (better by text than calling i feel) id put something like this. "hey darlin i've got a well good place i'm gonna take you when i get back, your gonna love it!" Or does that sound a bit desperate?

Normally im not this paranoid but this girls quite special and i reckon it could go somewhere just realise the importance of the first steps. Could really do with some advice or ideas from you fellow DJs as your advice in the past has always produced results.

Cheers guys i hope i havent sounded too AFC cause trust me im really not!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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flexion_

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This will be a tough one. I wouldn't even bother with formal dates - just go do stuff together like you normally do and then slowly add the the kino over time. Personally I don't think you'll get to far but good luck.
 

Tomatoes

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You dont need to do the formal bullsh!t! You already know each other.....Just do something that ends with going back to one of your places and go for a close. If you both want it then it shud come natural.

Normally i find friends realise love to each other at parties and stuff and things just kick off straight away..


It depends how friendly you 2 already were really.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Hey man, how did you break the LJBF barrier?

Inquiring minds want to know. :D

I'm Trying to break it myself right now as a lil side experiment in my life. It's the equivalent to curing Cancer for DJ's!!! Share your wisdom with us and Give us some info on how you did it. :up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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