"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Advice needed now im out of the freindship zone

Raoul Duke

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Hey there,

Been really close friends with this girl for 2 years now and we've realised we both like each other. She wants us to go out on a date to see how things go. The only problem is as we've been friends for so long, going out for a drink or a meal whatever is just going to seem repeative.

My idea is this, and please provide advice whether you think its a good or bad idea: A couple of months ago we were considering going to a safari park for the day but it never materialized. Do you reckon this is would be the perfect idea for a first date or do you guys think it would be a bit too much too soon?

Also, is it a good idea to make it a bit of a suprise as i have an idea of how to ask her (better by text than calling i feel) id put something like this. "hey darlin i've got a well good place i'm gonna take you when i get back, your gonna love it!" Or does that sound a bit desperate?

Normally im not this paranoid but this girls quite special and i reckon it could go somewhere just realise the importance of the first steps. Could really do with some advice or ideas from you fellow DJs as your advice in the past has always produced results.

Cheers guys i hope i havent sounded too AFC cause trust me im really not!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This will be a tough one. I wouldn't even bother with formal dates - just go do stuff together like you normally do and then slowly add the the kino over time. Personally I don't think you'll get to far but good luck.
 

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You dont need to do the formal bullsh!t! You already know each other.....Just do something that ends with going back to one of your places and go for a close. If you both want it then it shud come natural.

Normally i find friends realise love to each other at parties and stuff and things just kick off straight away..


It depends how friendly you 2 already were really.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Hey man, how did you break the LJBF barrier?

Inquiring minds want to know. :D

I'm Trying to break it myself right now as a lil side experiment in my life. It's the equivalent to curing Cancer for DJ's!!! Share your wisdom with us and Give us some info on how you did it. :up:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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