"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Barbell Flat Bench Press: 134lbs x 6; 134lbs x 6; 134lbs x 6;
I spent the night out at a party and I drank a bit too much yesterday, so I don't feel like doing squats and I rather do some benching. I'll squat tomorrow if I feel alright.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Barbell Flat Bench Press: 139lbs x 6; 139lbs x 6;
Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 53lbs x 6; 53lbs x 6;
Military Press: 92lbs x 10; 92lbs x 10;
Really strange thing: I had already finished my workout since 20 minutes or so, when a friend asked me how many times could I Military Press those 92lbs that still were in my backyard. I said "Let's see" and I started lifting them and guess what, I got to 10 without too much effort (meaning that I could have thrown in another couple of reps), while I was almost breathless the first time I did them 20 minutes earlier.
Barbell Flat Bench Press: 143lbs x 6; 143lbs x 3;
Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 55lbs x 6; 55lbs x 6;
Military Press: 92lbs x 10;
The first Bench Press was done with poor form (meaning that the barbell didn't touch my chest), so I'll have to stick to the 143lbs for the next workout.
Millies had me going to failure on the tenth rep.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You're damn right, man. Unluckily, I started Deadlifting just a month ago, while I've been rowing for some time now... My bench is flying up, hopefully squats and deads will do the same...Lifeforce said:
A question for all you guys out there, expecially the experienced ones like Warboss, Mind-Over-Matter & Lifeforce: my calves are ridicolously slim (less than 16"), so they look like shìt, since I have pretty muscular arms and torso.
Should I start training them directly or it wouldn't help anyway?
My calves grew insanly when I incorporated rest pause sets of calves raises. A rest pause set is when you do as many reps you can until failure, take 15 breaths and then do as many as you can again until failure and then repeated once more. I'm sure you knew this because warboss used to talk about it all the time.
Do 1 rest pause set of standing calves raises where you aim for around 16-20 reps. For example 12+6+3 = 19 reps. Make sure you do FULL RANGE of motion and go until you can do no more. The last rep of every set should go up very slowly, one cm at a time. Worked very well for me, you can try it and see if it works for you. If you do it right your calves should be screaming at the end of every set.
Otherwise I am sure your calves will grow when you do some deep squatting.
Warboss made me notice that I've been ditching some parts of his routine recently, so I decided to follow a new one, who I can get with easily. When my daily routine is less busy, I'll get back to Alex's.
Monday - Deadlifts
Tuesday - Military Presses
Wednesday - Barbell Rows
Thursday - Squats
Friday - Bench Presses
Every exercise is 5-6 reps X 3 sets (or more, if my muscles permit).
Deadlifts: 117lbs x 6; 117lbs x 6; 117lbs x 6; 117lbs x 6; 117lbs x 6;
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.