Why does it seem when you text a girl something that requires an action on her part like coming to my place or a night out they get all vague and distant or they blow you off? Is it because you are putting them on the spot or they don't want to seem to available or sluttish? Getting quality females to respond in a timely fashion that benefts me is some hard business many times.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
so fas my flake rate is a 100% , i don't know what to do.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.