Why does it seem when you text a girl something that requires an action on her part like coming to my place or a night out they get all vague and distant or they blow you off? Is it because you are putting them on the spot or they don't want to seem to available or sluttish? Getting quality females to respond in a timely fashion that benefts me is some hard business many times.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
so fas my flake rate is a 100% , i don't know what to do.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.