Why does it seem when you text a girl something that requires an action on her part like coming to my place or a night out they get all vague and distant or they blow you off? Is it because you are putting them on the spot or they don't want to seem to available or sluttish? Getting quality females to respond in a timely fashion that benefts me is some hard business many times.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
so fas my flake rate is a 100% , i don't know what to do.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.