Why does it seem when you text a girl something that requires an action on her part like coming to my place or a night out they get all vague and distant or they blow you off? Is it because you are putting them on the spot or they don't want to seem to available or sluttish? Getting quality females to respond in a timely fashion that benefts me is some hard business many times.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
so fas my flake rate is a 100% , i don't know what to do.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'd say it depends how much rapport you've built with them. I usually do a lot of flirting and rapport building before I ask a girl out, I'll even hold out until they ask me some times.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
But if I asked any of these girls out after 3 or 4 texts I expect they'd flake on me too. I find girls like time to suss a guy out and feel comfortable before making any big moves.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Because you are "pushing" and it backfires at you. If you wanna reduce the flakes dramatically you have to make her reach out for it (a date or an action of some sort), just as Jariel does. I know it does not seem like it, but for a modern female you have to provide options because they are extremely sensitive to 'pressure' you put on them.