You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Its not your job to prove you are LTR material, let the girls worry about this.
Be a benevolent dicatator like @BeExcellent ´s dad
With time and experience you get better at screening and vetting.
I mean yes, but "Before social media".
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yes. Women make it clear if they want an LTR. And they’ll aggressively force it on you if you let them.Well...first of all you HAVE to carry yourself with I'd say a GOD COMPLEX. No matter the circumstances, you should NEVER doubt your own worth! No woman should have the "keys to your peace of mind ". Period.
This is a classical chicken/egg dilemma. Men say they cant carry themselves with the GOD complex because they need a "strong woman " . But no strong woman wants you of yoi dont have the right attitude...
Its start with YOU. Let me give you some examples : say this outloud in front of the mirror:
- i am a hard worker
- iam responsible and a man of my word
-i am a pronstar in the sack
- i am a friendly killer who protects his people at all means.
- i am a great cook
- hygiene level HIGh.
- i am a stylistic icon in my own world
- i am an experienced, fairly goodlooking dude with the right mouthpiece.
- I AM A FECKING DON JUAN.
- money dont define me, p00sy won't control me!!
Ect ect ect.
This obviously should all be PRACTICED WITHOUT having a relationship/woman. Hell, a woman will actually keep you AWAY from becoming this man...
I'd say you rather be the chicken than the egg, especially if you're willing to sacrifice yourself as being a egg to satisfy a woman's hunger,rather than cultivating the egg to become a chicken who can bring you many more eggs and chickens....if that makes sense
Lastly, NEVER enter a situationship with a woman with the expectation that it will be a ltr. Its on HER to decide that,not on you!! Keep things light and easygoing.
How would you define irrelevant? Wdym?