Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Its not your job to prove you are LTR material, let the girls worry about this.
Be a benevolent dicatator like @BeExcellent ´s dad
With time and experience you get better at screening and vetting.
I mean yes, but "Before social media".
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yes. Women make it clear if they want an LTR. And they’ll aggressively force it on you if you let them.Well...first of all you HAVE to carry yourself with I'd say a GOD COMPLEX. No matter the circumstances, you should NEVER doubt your own worth! No woman should have the "keys to your peace of mind ". Period.
This is a classical chicken/egg dilemma. Men say they cant carry themselves with the GOD complex because they need a "strong woman " . But no strong woman wants you of yoi dont have the right attitude...
Its start with YOU. Let me give you some examples : say this outloud in front of the mirror:
- i am a hard worker
- iam responsible and a man of my word
-i am a pronstar in the sack
- i am a friendly killer who protects his people at all means.
- i am a great cook
- hygiene level HIGh.
- i am a stylistic icon in my own world
- i am an experienced, fairly goodlooking dude with the right mouthpiece.
- I AM A FECKING DON JUAN.
- money dont define me, p00sy won't control me!!
Ect ect ect.
This obviously should all be PRACTICED WITHOUT having a relationship/woman. Hell, a woman will actually keep you AWAY from becoming this man...
I'd say you rather be the chicken than the egg, especially if you're willing to sacrifice yourself as being a egg to satisfy a woman's hunger,rather than cultivating the egg to become a chicken who can bring you many more eggs and chickens....if that makes sense
Lastly, NEVER enter a situationship with a woman with the expectation that it will be a ltr. Its on HER to decide that,not on you!! Keep things light and easygoing.
How would you define irrelevant? Wdym?