Was currently going NC on my ex who I just broke up with a couple days ago. Been difficult but I haven't responded to any texts or calls. Today she asked if I was intentionally ignoring her, I took a screenshot intended for a friend, ended up sending it right back to her. Wild fires ensued. Still haven't responded but it got me fired up a little bit. Obviously she still cares if she got so worked up over it. Just thinking out loud here, sort of trying to play damage control. Thoughts?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Accidentally sent a screenshot to ex *face palm*
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
What happened with her? That's pretty hilarious to say the least. Have you actually talked to her or just decided to go NC?
I'm laughing because now she's sending me game of thrones spoilers lol.
We got into it before she went on a trip and I broke it off. She came back and we hooked up but then she said things changed so I just went NC. Now this.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well just play it off and continue with NC. You accidentally sending a screenshot to her message back to her can actually be better than not.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She just found out I deleted a picture of her and I off IG and basically told me to take care and she's disappointed things didn't work out.
Agreed
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Yup.
If people are truly serious about NC they will not only delete, but block their ex's number as well as all of her social media accounts.
Unless you have kids with her, there is no reason nor benefit to allow your ex to have a platform to reach out and contact you.
Are you expecting her to change? Are you hoping things can be different this time around? What are you holding onto? Rhetorical questions, of course.
logicallefty
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This^. OP, I made the mistake one time of not taking an ex out of my phone contacts. When my daughter was 8 she took my phone and texted my ex with it. Lesson learned for both of us.