Was currently going NC on my ex who I just broke up with a couple days ago. Been difficult but I haven't responded to any texts or calls. Today she asked if I was intentionally ignoring her, I took a screenshot intended for a friend, ended up sending it right back to her. Wild fires ensued. Still haven't responded but it got me fired up a little bit. Obviously she still cares if she got so worked up over it. Just thinking out loud here, sort of trying to play damage control. Thoughts?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Accidentally sent a screenshot to ex *face palm*
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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What happened with her? That's pretty hilarious to say the least. Have you actually talked to her or just decided to go NC?
I'm laughing because now she's sending me game of thrones spoilers lol.
We got into it before she went on a trip and I broke it off. She came back and we hooked up but then she said things changed so I just went NC. Now this.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well just play it off and continue with NC. You accidentally sending a screenshot to her message back to her can actually be better than not.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She just found out I deleted a picture of her and I off IG and basically told me to take care and she's disappointed things didn't work out.
Agreed
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Yup.
If people are truly serious about NC they will not only delete, but block their ex's number as well as all of her social media accounts.
Unless you have kids with her, there is no reason nor benefit to allow your ex to have a platform to reach out and contact you.
Are you expecting her to change? Are you hoping things can be different this time around? What are you holding onto? Rhetorical questions, of course.
logicallefty
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This^. OP, I made the mistake one time of not taking an ex out of my phone contacts. When my daughter was 8 she took my phone and texted my ex with it. Lesson learned for both of us.