Was currently going NC on my ex who I just broke up with a couple days ago. Been difficult but I haven't responded to any texts or calls. Today she asked if I was intentionally ignoring her, I took a screenshot intended for a friend, ended up sending it right back to her. Wild fires ensued. Still haven't responded but it got me fired up a little bit. Obviously she still cares if she got so worked up over it. Just thinking out loud here, sort of trying to play damage control. Thoughts?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Accidentally sent a screenshot to ex *face palm*
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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What happened with her? That's pretty hilarious to say the least. Have you actually talked to her or just decided to go NC?
I'm laughing because now she's sending me game of thrones spoilers lol.
We got into it before she went on a trip and I broke it off. She came back and we hooked up but then she said things changed so I just went NC. Now this.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well just play it off and continue with NC. You accidentally sending a screenshot to her message back to her can actually be better than not.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She just found out I deleted a picture of her and I off IG and basically told me to take care and she's disappointed things didn't work out.
Agreed
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Yup.
If people are truly serious about NC they will not only delete, but block their ex's number as well as all of her social media accounts.
Unless you have kids with her, there is no reason nor benefit to allow your ex to have a platform to reach out and contact you.
Are you expecting her to change? Are you hoping things can be different this time around? What are you holding onto? Rhetorical questions, of course.
logicallefty
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This^. OP, I made the mistake one time of not taking an ex out of my phone contacts. When my daughter was 8 she took my phone and texted my ex with it. Lesson learned for both of us.