Was currently going NC on my ex who I just broke up with a couple days ago. Been difficult but I haven't responded to any texts or calls. Today she asked if I was intentionally ignoring her, I took a screenshot intended for a friend, ended up sending it right back to her. Wild fires ensued. Still haven't responded but it got me fired up a little bit. Obviously she still cares if she got so worked up over it. Just thinking out loud here, sort of trying to play damage control. Thoughts?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Accidentally sent a screenshot to ex *face palm*
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
What happened with her? That's pretty hilarious to say the least. Have you actually talked to her or just decided to go NC?
I'm laughing because now she's sending me game of thrones spoilers lol.
We got into it before she went on a trip and I broke it off. She came back and we hooked up but then she said things changed so I just went NC. Now this.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well just play it off and continue with NC. You accidentally sending a screenshot to her message back to her can actually be better than not.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She just found out I deleted a picture of her and I off IG and basically told me to take care and she's disappointed things didn't work out.
Agreed
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Yup.
If people are truly serious about NC they will not only delete, but block their ex's number as well as all of her social media accounts.
Unless you have kids with her, there is no reason nor benefit to allow your ex to have a platform to reach out and contact you.
Are you expecting her to change? Are you hoping things can be different this time around? What are you holding onto? Rhetorical questions, of course.
logicallefty
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This^. OP, I made the mistake one time of not taking an ex out of my phone contacts. When my daughter was 8 she took my phone and texted my ex with it. Lesson learned for both of us.