You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah, I forgot about the deli sandwiches.. they've only started having them a few months ago, and I almost never go to McDonald's (or other fast food places).mr_elor said:Not quite.
a general sense though yeah, best to avoid fast food. Not sure if they do McDonalds deli sandwiches where you live, but they're not too bad for you. Kinda similar to Subway though.
I agree, but a lot of people don't get the idea of a cheat meal/day (depending on your diet) and overindulge. It's especially true when they're not on any specific program and just trying to "eat right." Not that it's a bad thing, but it's generally harder to follow something that you're just doing "on your own."Seems pretty reasonable. The key to sticking to a diet is treating yourself now and then, otherwise you won't stick to it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
acceptable for what purpose???bud_2005 said:What are some acceptable foods from a fast food restaurant if you are lifting? I eat Subway a lot but I get so sick of it too.
So in your awesome opinion it's totally fine for people to eat big macs and woppers all the time?Throttle said:acceptable for what purpose???
the blanket advice people are giving on this thread is mostly useless.
no, next straw man, please.Fred Da Head said:So in your awesome opinion it's totally fine for people to eat big macs and woppers all the time?
fast food as a category is no better or worse than most other types of restaurant food, and processed foods in general.Unless your purpose is to become an average American, fast food should be avoided as much as possible. There is no way that any fitness goal will be reached faster by eating fast food.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if avoiding starchy carbs.Monster said:1 Sm Chili (toss the crackers)
if you're worried about saturated fat.1 Baked Potato with broccoli and cheese (no sour cream)
the dressings top out at 260 calories per packet.1 Side Garden Salad (hold the dressing)
just out of curiousity, have you ever tried the high fat/protein low carb diet?Throttle said:trying to cut saturated fat is overrated, but you can do more by cooking lean meats & fish at home than any careful selections while eating out.
yes and no. i'm eating these days in a way many would describe as 'low carb' but I consider it a long-term lifestyle choice (reducing sugars & starches to the lowest tolerable amounts without resorting to gimmickry). if you cook at home and learn which veggies you can stand, and balance your fats with oily fish and fish oils, saturated fat isn't nearly the concern it otherwise would be.organizedconfusion said:just out of curiousity, have you ever tried the high fat/protein low carb diet?
that statement is remenisent of that particular way of eating.I tried it for a while,but i wounde up having to eat soo much protein and fat in order to get really full and it made me sick.:nervous:
Yes, not all saturated fats are created equal.Throttle said:trying to cut saturated fat is overrated, but you can do more by cooking lean meats & fish at home than any careful selections while eating out.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.