Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, I forgot about the deli sandwiches.. they've only started having them a few months ago, and I almost never go to McDonald's (or other fast food places).mr_elor said:Not quite.
a general sense though yeah, best to avoid fast food. Not sure if they do McDonalds deli sandwiches where you live, but they're not too bad for you. Kinda similar to Subway though.
I agree, but a lot of people don't get the idea of a cheat meal/day (depending on your diet) and overindulge. It's especially true when they're not on any specific program and just trying to "eat right." Not that it's a bad thing, but it's generally harder to follow something that you're just doing "on your own."Seems pretty reasonable. The key to sticking to a diet is treating yourself now and then, otherwise you won't stick to it.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
acceptable for what purpose???bud_2005 said:What are some acceptable foods from a fast food restaurant if you are lifting? I eat Subway a lot but I get so sick of it too.
So in your awesome opinion it's totally fine for people to eat big macs and woppers all the time?Throttle said:acceptable for what purpose???
the blanket advice people are giving on this thread is mostly useless.
no, next straw man, please.Fred Da Head said:So in your awesome opinion it's totally fine for people to eat big macs and woppers all the time?
fast food as a category is no better or worse than most other types of restaurant food, and processed foods in general.Unless your purpose is to become an average American, fast food should be avoided as much as possible. There is no way that any fitness goal will be reached faster by eating fast food.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
if avoiding starchy carbs.Monster said:1 Sm Chili (toss the crackers)
if you're worried about saturated fat.1 Baked Potato with broccoli and cheese (no sour cream)
the dressings top out at 260 calories per packet.1 Side Garden Salad (hold the dressing)
just out of curiousity, have you ever tried the high fat/protein low carb diet?Throttle said:trying to cut saturated fat is overrated, but you can do more by cooking lean meats & fish at home than any careful selections while eating out.
yes and no. i'm eating these days in a way many would describe as 'low carb' but I consider it a long-term lifestyle choice (reducing sugars & starches to the lowest tolerable amounts without resorting to gimmickry). if you cook at home and learn which veggies you can stand, and balance your fats with oily fish and fish oils, saturated fat isn't nearly the concern it otherwise would be.organizedconfusion said:just out of curiousity, have you ever tried the high fat/protein low carb diet?
that statement is remenisent of that particular way of eating.I tried it for a while,but i wounde up having to eat soo much protein and fat in order to get really full and it made me sick.:nervous:
Yes, not all saturated fats are created equal.Throttle said:trying to cut saturated fat is overrated, but you can do more by cooking lean meats & fish at home than any careful selections while eating out.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.