You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I hope it's not also gonna be the case for me. But who knows...
Just be honest with them if they start trying to lock you down and let them know you enjoy spending time with them but are also dating other people. Either they will be OK with it or they won't but they know where things are after that.
Just waiting for the haters to chime in. That's a great problem to have. The opposite of many. lol
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I had a natural charm that made me successful most of my life but I was never a womanizer or a misogynist.Just waiting for the haters to chime in. That's a great problem to have. The opposite of many. lol
Personally stay the course and go about it like the way you have been. That's all part of dating. There will be losers and winners. Nothing is guaranteed. If you get the "where are we" talk, just tell them that you honestly don't know yet and it will be up to them if they wanna continue seeing someone that's unsure or gamble on someone else that may also be unsure.