I turn 32 en of November. I have a 5 year old son. Me and his mom broke up 4 years ago. I spent the last 4 years getting into good shape, learning mma, buying me a nice condo, and secured a 6 figure job. I dated a few girls here and there on the mean time and have come to realize I’m too naive when it comes to women. I found this forum and wanted to dedicate my life now at 32 to getting good with woman. Whenever I start seeing a woman and I don’t feel much interest in they become super clingy but when I see a woman I’m very interested in I can feel their interest fading. It sucks that I have to play the is game but I realize my behavior is greatly affecting the level of affection these women feel for me. It’s like I have to fabricate disinterest or create such an abundance that I don’t feel the need to perform for any of them. Anyways, can you guys give me some good advice on how to kick off. I guess I would need to find a way to go on as many dates as possible with as many woman to start with. What’s the best way to achieve this.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
About to be 32 and single af
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is my experience. I don't like to perform.
I am a fairly attractive man, well placed financially and I own my own things.
This is the basis.
Now, let's get to the point: we need to have sex.
The problem: It's not easy.
I'm not a lover of dating, in fact I hate having to take the girl for a "ride on the rides" only to then want to f0ck her. What I mean is, I would like to just f0ck.
I go out there, I'm looking for an attractive girl, she's single currently and I want to f0ck her.
I don't want to take her for a walk, for a drink, to a restaurant.
"Dear woman, I want a healthy and beautiful f0ck with you, a bit of company and a bit of intimacy, are you too on the same road?"
Well, this is what I want, not a relationship, but for some reason I have difficulty completing the fulfillment of this desire of mine.
Wonder how you guys fixed it.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
As far as attracting women, women want men they respect; live life the way you see fit (like taking care of your son, doing the kind of work you want to do, looking the way you want to look, etc), that includes approaching the kind of women you're attracted to without hesitation. In other words, learn how to respect yourself, possibly in ways that you're currently unaware.
Bible_Belt
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You're not too old to compete. I did it at your age. How's your jits? If you go to a NAGA tournament, they are all lying sand baggers, just fyi.
Clockwerk50
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I don't like posts like these because they're a waste of everyone's time, both the writer's and the readers'.
OP, you need to provide more context. How exactly do you show interest? What types of women are you dating? And why do you feel the need to go on as many dates as possible with as many women as possible when, as you already mentioned, you have women showing interest in you whom you're simply not interested in?
There's so much information missing that it's impossible to establish a starting point or offer meaningful advice on what you actually need to work on.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, there are several prerequisite guides you should read, such as the DJ Bible and The Red Pill Side Bar. Those will at least give you a foundation to work from, regardless of how much advice you receive here.
OP, you need to provide more context. How exactly do you show interest? What types of women are you dating? And why do you feel the need to go on as many dates as possible with as many women as possible when, as you already mentioned, you have women showing interest in you whom you're simply not interested in?
There's so much information missing that it's impossible to establish a starting point or offer meaningful advice on what you actually need to work on.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, there are several prerequisite guides you should read, such as the DJ Bible and The Red Pill Side Bar. Those will at least give you a foundation to work from, regardless of how much advice you receive here.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
this you can definitely pull ; I do ~
not every girl wants to go on the date and you don’t want to do that as well -
I cannot out into words but the answer is yes you can have good times with girls and not up on dating
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No. You have to emotionally self regulate yourself. Big difference.
The Duke
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This is why it's hard. You and @Cheeky_James want to skip the song and dance part and get right to the fuhking. Thats why guys like me end up in bed with the girl later that nite and you two go home with nothing.
I don't think there is anything hard about it. I simply enjoy the seduction part. In fact it has gotten so easy that I have to tell myself I don't need to go home with some random girl.
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I agree with the post above mine.
Gotta think in REVERSE; sex might mean everything to you ,but "nothing " to a woman..similarly cuddling might be meaningless to you while it means the world to her...gotta find the middle ground .
For decades ( modern dating let's say from the 60/70's) men got girlfriends to get their needs met. Nothing more nothing less. Yes that means talking on the phone for 30 minutes sometimes. Taking her out. Buying flowers. Answering to her insecurities. Meeting her family and friends..
Thats the quickest way to get steady sex. If you are " that guy" you might get a feck buddy. But even in that case you'll learn how fickle women are. She might be a sl-ut to you, but she still gonna want a boyfriend sooner or later. If you indeed are that guy you would replace her in a heartbeat or even better; you got a roster. Judging from your question..you lack something.
Gotta think in REVERSE; sex might mean everything to you ,but "nothing " to a woman..similarly cuddling might be meaningless to you while it means the world to her...gotta find the middle ground .
For decades ( modern dating let's say from the 60/70's) men got girlfriends to get their needs met. Nothing more nothing less. Yes that means talking on the phone for 30 minutes sometimes. Taking her out. Buying flowers. Answering to her insecurities. Meeting her family and friends..
Thats the quickest way to get steady sex. If you are " that guy" you might get a feck buddy. But even in that case you'll learn how fickle women are. She might be a sl-ut to you, but she still gonna want a boyfriend sooner or later. If you indeed are that guy you would replace her in a heartbeat or even better; you got a roster. Judging from your question..you lack something.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Duke
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No, I like putting effort into something. The thrill for me comes before she drops her panties, not after.