I turn 32 en of November. I have a 5 year old son. Me and his mom broke up 4 years ago. I spent the last 4 years getting into good shape, learning mma, buying me a nice condo, and secured a 6 figure job. I dated a few girls here and there on the mean time and have come to realize I’m too naive when it comes to women. I found this forum and wanted to dedicate my life now at 32 to getting good with woman. Whenever I start seeing a woman and I don’t feel much interest in they become super clingy but when I see a woman I’m very interested in I can feel their interest fading. It sucks that I have to play the is game but I realize my behavior is greatly affecting the level of affection these women feel for me. It’s like I have to fabricate disinterest or create such an abundance that I don’t feel the need to perform for any of them. Anyways, can you guys give me some good advice on how to kick off. I guess I would need to find a way to go on as many dates as possible with as many woman to start with. What’s the best way to achieve this.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
About to be 32 and single af
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is my experience. I don't like to perform.
I am a fairly attractive man, well placed financially and I own my own things.
This is the basis.
Now, let's get to the point: we need to have sex.
The problem: It's not easy.
I'm not a lover of dating, in fact I hate having to take the girl for a "ride on the rides" only to then want to f0ck her. What I mean is, I would like to just f0ck.
I go out there, I'm looking for an attractive girl, she's single currently and I want to f0ck her.
I don't want to take her for a walk, for a drink, to a restaurant.
"Dear woman, I want a healthy and beautiful f0ck with you, a bit of company and a bit of intimacy, are you too on the same road?"
Well, this is what I want, not a relationship, but for some reason I have difficulty completing the fulfillment of this desire of mine.
Wonder how you guys fixed it.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
As far as attracting women, women want men they respect; live life the way you see fit (like taking care of your son, doing the kind of work you want to do, looking the way you want to look, etc), that includes approaching the kind of women you're attracted to without hesitation. In other words, learn how to respect yourself, possibly in ways that you're currently unaware.
Bible_Belt
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You're not too old to compete. I did it at your age. How's your jits? If you go to a NAGA tournament, they are all lying sand baggers, just fyi.
Clockwerk50
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I don't like posts like these because they're a waste of everyone's time, both the writer's and the readers'.
OP, you need to provide more context. How exactly do you show interest? What types of women are you dating? And why do you feel the need to go on as many dates as possible with as many women as possible when, as you already mentioned, you have women showing interest in you whom you're simply not interested in?
There's so much information missing that it's impossible to establish a starting point or offer meaningful advice on what you actually need to work on.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, there are several prerequisite guides you should read, such as the DJ Bible and The Red Pill Side Bar. Those will at least give you a foundation to work from, regardless of how much advice you receive here.
OP, you need to provide more context. How exactly do you show interest? What types of women are you dating? And why do you feel the need to go on as many dates as possible with as many women as possible when, as you already mentioned, you have women showing interest in you whom you're simply not interested in?
There's so much information missing that it's impossible to establish a starting point or offer meaningful advice on what you actually need to work on.
If you're looking for somewhere to start, there are several prerequisite guides you should read, such as the DJ Bible and The Red Pill Side Bar. Those will at least give you a foundation to work from, regardless of how much advice you receive here.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
this you can definitely pull ; I do ~
not every girl wants to go on the date and you don’t want to do that as well -
I cannot out into words but the answer is yes you can have good times with girls and not up on dating
BackInTheGame78
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No. You have to emotionally self regulate yourself. Big difference.
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This is why it's hard. You and @Cheeky_James want to skip the song and dance part and get right to the fuhking. Thats why guys like me end up in bed with the girl later that nite and you two go home with nothing.
I don't think there is anything hard about it. I simply enjoy the seduction part. In fact it has gotten so easy that I have to tell myself I don't need to go home with some random girl.