Guys, we can learn a lot from this:
http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2011/09/the_picky_prowling_23-year-old.html
http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2011/09/the_picky_prowling_23-year-old.html
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
A girl becomes a slut when she sleeps with everyone but me.Zarky said:BUT on the other hand I like to see women who aren't afraid of having sex. What would you rather have, a world full of prudes or a world full of sluts?
How about neither? Just because a particular female is a slut doesn't mean that she is less picky. Most males DO have a problem with women who think they can get banged by an army of alpha's only to pick out a beta to settle down with once the old c*nt becomes practically useless.Zarky said:What would you rather have, a world full of prudes or a world full of sluts?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Women being afraid of "being judged" is a piss poor excuse as to why they don't put out often. First of all women don't have anywhere near the sex drive that a male does. Secondly they're the only ones who willingly and easily use sex as a tool for manipulation. When was the last time you heard of a male doing this? Men just want sex for the sake of pleasure itself. The two genders are so vastly different physically and mentally that it's just stupid to make such a linear overly simplified comparison between the two.r0cky said:A girl becomes a slut when she sleeps with everyone but me.
I think the main reason why girls dont act on their sexual urges as much as men is because they will be judged. If we as men stopped judging them for enjoying sex and instead encouraged them, like we do to other males, to be promiscuous, girls would be more open to casual sex.
irocknike23 said:lol this girl gets it in...a lot.
EDIT: makes me think....are all single girls like this or similar?
I dont agree with women having a lower sex drive than men. Men are just more agressive and more free to show they want sex. Women hide it because, like I said, they don't want to be judged.C-quenced said:Women being afraid of "being judged" is a piss poor excuse as to why they don't put out often. First of all women don't have anywhere near the sex drive that a male does. Secondly they're the only ones who willingly and easily use sex as a tool for manipulation. When was the last time you heard of a male doing this? Men just want sex for the sake of pleasure itself. The two genders are so vastly different physically and mentally that it's just stupid to make such a linear overly simplified comparison between the two.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.