Guys, we can learn a lot from this:
http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2011/09/the_picky_prowling_23-year-old.html
http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2011/09/the_picky_prowling_23-year-old.html
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A girl becomes a slut when she sleeps with everyone but me.Zarky said:BUT on the other hand I like to see women who aren't afraid of having sex. What would you rather have, a world full of prudes or a world full of sluts?
How about neither? Just because a particular female is a slut doesn't mean that she is less picky. Most males DO have a problem with women who think they can get banged by an army of alpha's only to pick out a beta to settle down with once the old c*nt becomes practically useless.Zarky said:What would you rather have, a world full of prudes or a world full of sluts?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Women being afraid of "being judged" is a piss poor excuse as to why they don't put out often. First of all women don't have anywhere near the sex drive that a male does. Secondly they're the only ones who willingly and easily use sex as a tool for manipulation. When was the last time you heard of a male doing this? Men just want sex for the sake of pleasure itself. The two genders are so vastly different physically and mentally that it's just stupid to make such a linear overly simplified comparison between the two.r0cky said:A girl becomes a slut when she sleeps with everyone but me.
I think the main reason why girls dont act on their sexual urges as much as men is because they will be judged. If we as men stopped judging them for enjoying sex and instead encouraged them, like we do to other males, to be promiscuous, girls would be more open to casual sex.
irocknike23 said:lol this girl gets it in...a lot.
EDIT: makes me think....are all single girls like this or similar?
I dont agree with women having a lower sex drive than men. Men are just more agressive and more free to show they want sex. Women hide it because, like I said, they don't want to be judged.C-quenced said:Women being afraid of "being judged" is a piss poor excuse as to why they don't put out often. First of all women don't have anywhere near the sex drive that a male does. Secondly they're the only ones who willingly and easily use sex as a tool for manipulation. When was the last time you heard of a male doing this? Men just want sex for the sake of pleasure itself. The two genders are so vastly different physically and mentally that it's just stupid to make such a linear overly simplified comparison between the two.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.