"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A true Dj create or find attraction?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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shagnscoob

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depends on how you play the game

if i understand correctly, anti-dump used a technique that finds approach, whereas its obvious that attraction can be built over time
 

biker_gixxer

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personally, i don't 'find' attraction, i 'create' it. i know how women operate, i know what they want, i know what they like (generally speaking of course). i use these tools to pull them into my reality, my world. Once they have experienced what i have to offer, they always come back for more.
 

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Physical attraction is something you find unless you are willing to change yourself to become attractive to a particular person or people, and that's still not a guarantee.

Emotional and psychological attraction, however, is always created and usually in the mind of the beholder. This is why mystery is important during the initial stages of a relationship as it allows her to fill in the blanks with her own ideals and qualities.

To establish emotional and psychological attraction, your best strategy is to appeal to a woman's imagination and let her create the attraction.

This emphasises why it's so important to let a woman do most of the talking. She will think that she is connecting with you, when she is really connecting with her ideal perception of you.
 

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maybe you can aruge this one but I don't you can create attraction ( physical per se ) its either there or not
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Jariel
Physical attraction is something you find unless you are willing to change yourself to become attractive to a particular person or people, and that's still not a guarantee.

Emotional and psychological attraction, however, is always created and usually in the mind of the beholder. This is why mystery is important during the initial stages of a relationship as it allows her to fill in the blanks with her own ideals and qualities.

To establish emotional and psychological attraction, your best strategy is to appeal to a woman's imagination and let her create the attraction.

This emphasises why it's so important to let a woman do most of the talking. She will think that she is connecting with you, when she is really connecting with her ideal perception of you.
Very nicely put, Jariel. That process of creating emotional and psychological attraction is usually how a girl can become "attached" to a guy she first meets online, for example. Being mysterious allows the person to somewhat idealize you before they see your true colors.
 

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