Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i know how women operate, i know what they want, i know what they like (generally speaking of course).[/B]
Very nicely put, Jariel. That process of creating emotional and psychological attraction is usually how a girl can become "attached" to a guy she first meets online, for example. Being mysterious allows the person to somewhat idealize you before they see your true colors.Originally posted by Jariel
Physical attraction is something you find unless you are willing to change yourself to become attractive to a particular person or people, and that's still not a guarantee.
Emotional and psychological attraction, however, is always created and usually in the mind of the beholder. This is why mystery is important during the initial stages of a relationship as it allows her to fill in the blanks with her own ideals and qualities.
To establish emotional and psychological attraction, your best strategy is to appeal to a woman's imagination and let her create the attraction.
This emphasises why it's so important to let a woman do most of the talking. She will think that she is connecting with you, when she is really connecting with her ideal perception of you.