"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A stripper gave me a phone number. Now what?

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OK, this is my first post ever. Please be gentle.

I went to a strip club and got a VIP treatment from a stripper. Well, I was struck with a huge anxiety attack and my member kept becoming soft. :cry:

The stripper was embarrassed and she really wants to help me out later. Then she suddenly gave her phone number. And she asked me to txt me later.

I guess she might have done that out of pity. Actually I haven't had a GF for five years and nervousness really got me. Even now, I have a trouble falling asleep.

So...what's gonna happen? This is so sudden.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's probably hooking on the side for extra cash. I'd toss the number and never go back to that particular strip club.
 
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Well, you COULD start a dialog with her. But remember shes just gonna be for a f---. However, you can always have her "show you some tricks" on how to relax & please a woman. What have you got to lose, besides your nerviousness and a few bucks? Isn't the object here to get laid? So "practice" on her. You're not looking for a wife, just to get laid!
 
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why are you freaking out. start texting her and game her up and see how it goes, she can show you some tricks, just keep your softy strapped
 
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She's a stripper. You're a wallet. If you are comfortable with that, call her.

I'm being blunt and serious here -- you are not to entertain any idea that a stripper can be anything more than a *****.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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LostAndConfused said:
Now....you call her.
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hey ambelada, im from the IE too... nice to know someone in here could be my neighbor
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I dunno, she talked about her ex being Japanese. (I am Korean) But some of you are right. You can't take a stripper at the face value.
 
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Call her and use the material you've been studying.
 
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the only way to find out what's up is to call her. But personally I wouldn't call a stripper that I met at a strip club, your just a paycheck to her (I know, I've been seeing a stripper recently and she tells me stories about the girls where she works).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maybe she wants to put the lead back in your pencil and wants to be your "healer".

If you are Korean, she probably thinks you are really prudish and shy and wants to bring you out of that, wants to challenge you. Its such a turn on making a good boy go bad!
 
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