"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A stripper gave me a phone number. Now what?

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OK, this is my first post ever. Please be gentle.

I went to a strip club and got a VIP treatment from a stripper. Well, I was struck with a huge anxiety attack and my member kept becoming soft. :cry:

The stripper was embarrassed and she really wants to help me out later. Then she suddenly gave her phone number. And she asked me to txt me later.

I guess she might have done that out of pity. Actually I haven't had a GF for five years and nervousness really got me. Even now, I have a trouble falling asleep.

So...what's gonna happen? This is so sudden.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's probably hooking on the side for extra cash. I'd toss the number and never go back to that particular strip club.
 

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Well, you COULD start a dialog with her. But remember shes just gonna be for a f---. However, you can always have her "show you some tricks" on how to relax & please a woman. What have you got to lose, besides your nerviousness and a few bucks? Isn't the object here to get laid? So "practice" on her. You're not looking for a wife, just to get laid!
 

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why are you freaking out. start texting her and game her up and see how it goes, she can show you some tricks, just keep your softy strapped
 

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She's a stripper. You're a wallet. If you are comfortable with that, call her.

I'm being blunt and serious here -- you are not to entertain any idea that a stripper can be anything more than a *****.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LostAndConfused said:
Now....you call her.
hey ambelada, im from the IE too... nice to know someone in here could be my neighbor
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I dunno, she talked about her ex being Japanese. (I am Korean) But some of you are right. You can't take a stripper at the face value.
 

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Call her and use the material you've been studying.
 

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the only way to find out what's up is to call her. But personally I wouldn't call a stripper that I met at a strip club, your just a paycheck to her (I know, I've been seeing a stripper recently and she tells me stories about the girls where she works).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe she wants to put the lead back in your pencil and wants to be your "healer".

If you are Korean, she probably thinks you are really prudish and shy and wants to bring you out of that, wants to challenge you. Its such a turn on making a good boy go bad!
 
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