Ok heres the story, I have this girl in my class who I became friends with. We would talk alot in class, we had chemistry together, lots of things in common. But we continued to stay friends. We have been friends for about 4 months or so, and recently she has been telling me about this guy she thinks is cute but doesnt really know. I am finally ready to make my move, do you guys think it is too late? or should I go for it? If so, do you have any suggestions?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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Meh.
Sounds like you're securely stuck in the friendzone.
Sounds like you're securely stuck in the friendzone.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
Time to move on.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Kev07
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i think it is too late.
but of course, you'll never know for sure. make your move. now.
have you shown any signs of interest over those 4 months? because that's a LONG time to be casual
but of course, you'll never know for sure. make your move. now.
have you shown any signs of interest over those 4 months? because that's a LONG time to be casual
DontQuitYet
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well
you should go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Chances are you will always be "friends" but even if that's the case she'll just tell you that. So might as well be risky.
you should go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Chances are you will always be "friends" but even if that's the case she'll just tell you that. So might as well be risky.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
I'd just go for it before its too late, man. Shes still gonna like you, maybe she'll like you even more because you like her, who knows.
Wanna find out right
Wanna find out right
aussiegoat55
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DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER! MAN UP, and Carpe Diem!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.