Ok heres the story, I have this girl in my class who I became friends with. We would talk alot in class, we had chemistry together, lots of things in common. But we continued to stay friends. We have been friends for about 4 months or so, and recently she has been telling me about this guy she thinks is cute but doesnt really know. I am finally ready to make my move, do you guys think it is too late? or should I go for it? If so, do you have any suggestions?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A small problem
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX
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Meh.
Sounds like you're securely stuck in the friendzone.
Sounds like you're securely stuck in the friendzone.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
Time to move on.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Kev07
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i think it is too late.
but of course, you'll never know for sure. make your move. now.
have you shown any signs of interest over those 4 months? because that's a LONG time to be casual
but of course, you'll never know for sure. make your move. now.
have you shown any signs of interest over those 4 months? because that's a LONG time to be casual
DontQuitYet
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well
you should go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Chances are you will always be "friends" but even if that's the case she'll just tell you that. So might as well be risky.
you should go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Chances are you will always be "friends" but even if that's the case she'll just tell you that. So might as well be risky.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
I'd just go for it before its too late, man. Shes still gonna like you, maybe she'll like you even more because you like her, who knows.
Wanna find out right
Wanna find out right
aussiegoat55
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DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER! MAN UP, and Carpe Diem!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.