"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A simple reply to "let's just be friends"

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Or just "nah", then never speak to her again.

If you ever hear those words she is not fit for the purpose you intended. If you WANTED to be friends with her you'd never have heard those words in the first place.

As others have said in recent posts, she is basically saying, "it's never going to happen but I want you to orbit me for my own self esteem"
 

nroug7

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Brosy said:
Or just "nah", then never speak to her again.

If you ever hear those words she is not fit for the purpose you intended. If you WANTED to be friends with her you'd never have heard those words in the first place.

As others have said in recent posts, she is basically saying, "it's never going to happen but I want you to orbit me for my own self esteem"
And this response forces her into two outcomes - she either gives in due to your confident persistence, or you don't become friends since there are no benefits.
Never repress sexual desire, even when you hear a line like that. It just sounds like you are making an excuse to collapse your entire frame on the spot and walk away.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nroug7 said:
Sure, are you ready to discuss the benefits?
when you get that line from a girl, it's a sinker.doesn't matter how you respond to her, your ship will capsize.

best response is : "I have enough friends as it is , thank you.Have a nice day"

or i: "sorry , i'm not looking for friends"

polite , efficient.
 

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I once got a 2-page letter from a girl that ended with "So, what I'm saying is, is it ok for now if we're just friends?"

My reply?

"No."

Her reply?

"Well F*ck off then!" (and then she had sex with me and told me I was the greatest lover she ever had).
 

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I've actually never been given that line in a rejection sense. To be honest I've never had the balls to make a move like that. If I'm in the friendzone I know it, and I'm either OK with it and keep being mates, or I just withdraw distance without hearing that sentence.

A time will come when I get hit with that line, and I think that your line suits my personality at the moment so I'd use it, then if nothing was forthcoming I'd gradually disappear.

Gunner
 

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Depends on their meaning of 'friends' really.

I got that line off my ex when I was trying to get back with her. Went round for the first time after we split not sure if anything would even happen but within a few minutes she was all over me. She's now my fb.
 
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