"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A sh*t-test where the girls talks about guys she's slept with

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You know, talking about the different guys she's hooked up with - maybe not necessarily banged, but kissed or made out with.

Example.

I'm emailing a chick who I was sleeping with for a week while she was in my city on holidays. In the emails, she occasionally mentions how she made out with various different guys of different nationalities and how some accents turn her on.

I'm interested to see what your opinions are on this behaviour.

Edit: My own input would be: do not respond in a sexual frame yourself. That's "taking the bait". You have to be unfazed by it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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slaog said:
You're correct not to respond emotionally but maybe you could let her know that being a slvt isn't a great thing. If it effected you emotionally then she'd see a weakness in you.
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

You can't change a woman anyway, so I think you've gotta accept it and be cool with the kind of person she is. It doesn't mean you have to accept her into your life or date her obviously, it just means you can either completely ignore her, or use her to your advantage (i.e. just have fun with it, and she could help you with other girls etc)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The_Reaper said:
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

No its not an emotional reaction. Its like if a child was being naughty. It wouldn't cause you to react emotionally but you'd tell the child that you're not happy about it.


BTW I wasn't saying to tell her shes a slvt directly.


If you want this girl then go for it.
 

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An unphased 'Respect' or 'That's great', or play it C+F and do what's been said above - be silly and do 'accents'.
 

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nightcrawler said:
why don't you tell her you have a sexy accent?
Well, she already has heard it, and complimented me on it. She actually negged me a little, saying it's the reason she f*cked me.
 

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That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
 

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Darth said:
That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
Maybe true.

I'm usually pretty good at detecting sluts, and with this chick I get the impression she's more of a c*ck-tease than a complete slut.

Before I banged her, I got some extreme LMR, and she told me she hadn't slept with anyone in a year. It had a ring of truth to it. She was pretty awful in bed, for starters, haha.

Edit: I swear to f*cking Christ, the moderation for words on this forum is fcking retarded. "Wh*re, "C*ck" - what kind of fckin BS is this? We're all adults here.
 

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everywomanshero said:
There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
I'm not applying the concept of "neg" to this situation. I'm applying the term, which perfectly fits a real-world event - a slight teasing insult.

The pickup BS does mess with people's minds - I agree with that. I don't use it, ever. I'm natural all the way. But I find the PUA lingo very useful as shorthand.
 

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WHY SO SERIOUS? Turn it into a joke, like the post above us a British accent and turn it sexual. This shows the I DONT GIVE A **** attitude at its best
 

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Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kevin Feng said:
Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
Awesome. Very impressive level of understanding. Niicccee.
 
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