"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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A sh*t-test where the girls talks about guys she's slept with

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You know, talking about the different guys she's hooked up with - maybe not necessarily banged, but kissed or made out with.

Example.

I'm emailing a chick who I was sleeping with for a week while she was in my city on holidays. In the emails, she occasionally mentions how she made out with various different guys of different nationalities and how some accents turn her on.

I'm interested to see what your opinions are on this behaviour.

Edit: My own input would be: do not respond in a sexual frame yourself. That's "taking the bait". You have to be unfazed by it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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slaog said:
You're correct not to respond emotionally but maybe you could let her know that being a slvt isn't a great thing. If it effected you emotionally then she'd see a weakness in you.
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

You can't change a woman anyway, so I think you've gotta accept it and be cool with the kind of person she is. It doesn't mean you have to accept her into your life or date her obviously, it just means you can either completely ignore her, or use her to your advantage (i.e. just have fun with it, and she could help you with other girls etc)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The_Reaper said:
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

No its not an emotional reaction. Its like if a child was being naughty. It wouldn't cause you to react emotionally but you'd tell the child that you're not happy about it.


BTW I wasn't saying to tell her shes a slvt directly.


If you want this girl then go for it.
 

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An unphased 'Respect' or 'That's great', or play it C+F and do what's been said above - be silly and do 'accents'.
 

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nightcrawler said:
why don't you tell her you have a sexy accent?
Well, she already has heard it, and complimented me on it. She actually negged me a little, saying it's the reason she f*cked me.
 

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That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
 

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Darth said:
That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
Maybe true.

I'm usually pretty good at detecting sluts, and with this chick I get the impression she's more of a c*ck-tease than a complete slut.

Before I banged her, I got some extreme LMR, and she told me she hadn't slept with anyone in a year. It had a ring of truth to it. She was pretty awful in bed, for starters, haha.

Edit: I swear to f*cking Christ, the moderation for words on this forum is fcking retarded. "Wh*re, "C*ck" - what kind of fckin BS is this? We're all adults here.
 

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everywomanshero said:
There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
I'm not applying the concept of "neg" to this situation. I'm applying the term, which perfectly fits a real-world event - a slight teasing insult.

The pickup BS does mess with people's minds - I agree with that. I don't use it, ever. I'm natural all the way. But I find the PUA lingo very useful as shorthand.
 

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WHY SO SERIOUS? Turn it into a joke, like the post above us a British accent and turn it sexual. This shows the I DONT GIVE A **** attitude at its best
 

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Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kevin Feng said:
Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
Awesome. Very impressive level of understanding. Niicccee.
 
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