"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A sh*t-test where the girls talks about guys she's slept with

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You know, talking about the different guys she's hooked up with - maybe not necessarily banged, but kissed or made out with.

Example.

I'm emailing a chick who I was sleeping with for a week while she was in my city on holidays. In the emails, she occasionally mentions how she made out with various different guys of different nationalities and how some accents turn her on.

I'm interested to see what your opinions are on this behaviour.

Edit: My own input would be: do not respond in a sexual frame yourself. That's "taking the bait". You have to be unfazed by it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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slaog said:
You're correct not to respond emotionally but maybe you could let her know that being a slvt isn't a great thing. If it effected you emotionally then she'd see a weakness in you.
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

You can't change a woman anyway, so I think you've gotta accept it and be cool with the kind of person she is. It doesn't mean you have to accept her into your life or date her obviously, it just means you can either completely ignore her, or use her to your advantage (i.e. just have fun with it, and she could help you with other girls etc)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The_Reaper said:
I don't think I would say that, it's too obviously an emotional/judgemental reaction.

No its not an emotional reaction. Its like if a child was being naughty. It wouldn't cause you to react emotionally but you'd tell the child that you're not happy about it.


BTW I wasn't saying to tell her shes a slvt directly.


If you want this girl then go for it.
 

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An unphased 'Respect' or 'That's great', or play it C+F and do what's been said above - be silly and do 'accents'.
 

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nightcrawler said:
why don't you tell her you have a sexy accent?
Well, she already has heard it, and complimented me on it. She actually negged me a little, saying it's the reason she f*cked me.
 

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That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
 

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Darth said:
That's not a sh!t test so much as a signal that she's a complete slut. I wouldn't even grace it with a response.
Maybe true.

I'm usually pretty good at detecting sluts, and with this chick I get the impression she's more of a c*ck-tease than a complete slut.

Before I banged her, I got some extreme LMR, and she told me she hadn't slept with anyone in a year. It had a ring of truth to it. She was pretty awful in bed, for starters, haha.

Edit: I swear to f*cking Christ, the moderation for words on this forum is fcking retarded. "Wh*re, "C*ck" - what kind of fckin BS is this? We're all adults here.
 

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everywomanshero said:
There's no such thing as a neg. Thinking about all the pickup BS is ruining your mind.. maybe she just likes accents, cool, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it as 3 billion other people probably enjoy them also
I'm not applying the concept of "neg" to this situation. I'm applying the term, which perfectly fits a real-world event - a slight teasing insult.

The pickup BS does mess with people's minds - I agree with that. I don't use it, ever. I'm natural all the way. But I find the PUA lingo very useful as shorthand.
 

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WHY SO SERIOUS? Turn it into a joke, like the post above us a British accent and turn it sexual. This shows the I DONT GIVE A **** attitude at its best
 

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Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kevin Feng said:
Yeah, it’s kind of like reverse preselection, in a way it’s her way of raising her own value. She’s basically saying “I’m high value, I’m the sh*t, and I have guys chasing after me all the time” but she calibrated it to where she isn’t a slut, hence why she just makes out with them and doesn’t go the full 9 yards, because then she would be a slut.

It’s kind of her roundabout way of qualifying herself to you, which is actually a good thing because it’s a sign that she’s trying to win you over. So just let her do her thing. Like you said, as long as you’re not fazed by it.
Awesome. Very impressive level of understanding. Niicccee.
 
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