"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A question from me, to you

BongDuy

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Okay, so this girl named "Megz" came down from colorado, to miami, which is about 30 minutes away from my place. She accompanied by her bro, and is staying with her uncle. Her uncle kept mentioning how i should try and get with his neice, which is really weird, but i was thinking " sure... ill talk to her "
So i finally meet her. I try to get her to talk, but she doesn't say much. I wasn't sure if she was just shy, or nervous to meet me, or what, but long story short, i ended up looking like the riddler, asking her a bunch of questions to get her to talk.

I spent two days down in miami, in the same house. She didn't know i "liked" her until her uncle and his bro kept teasing her about me by saying things like " MEG, YOUR BOYFRIEND IS HERE!" or " So since he is to shy, are you going to make the first move on him?" in which she would reply " psshh... im good..." thats when i knew she didn't like me like that.

Too be honest, i don't even really like her, i don't know why im so nervous around her. I think its because I feel as if her family is pressuring me to make an unnatural move on this girl, when i don't feel its right.

Her bro and uncle tried to convince me she just wants me to chase her, but i dont think so...


Its pretty obvious she isnt into me, but i want to make things less weird between us.My question is even though its super awkward between us because of her uncle and me being so nervous around her( i was never good at talking to girls who play " the game "), i was wondering if anyone could give me advice on what to say or how to act around her next time i see her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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djinhell

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Just be cool. Theres no need to feel pressure, it takes the fun out of everything.

Just treat it as a bit of a laugh and a joke...take it light hearted...the sooner you relax, the better you will feel, and undoubtedly she will feel relaxed around you...

and if she is one of those chicks who takes herself way too seriously, just laugh at that aswell!

DJ IN HELL
 

King Turi

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Tell her you feel weird since her uncle and her bro are like forcing you to bust a move on her.

Then tell her you would have already except you don't like bein' told what to do.
 
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