"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A question from me, to you

BongDuy

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Okay, so this girl named "Megz" came down from colorado, to miami, which is about 30 minutes away from my place. She accompanied by her bro, and is staying with her uncle. Her uncle kept mentioning how i should try and get with his neice, which is really weird, but i was thinking " sure... ill talk to her "
So i finally meet her. I try to get her to talk, but she doesn't say much. I wasn't sure if she was just shy, or nervous to meet me, or what, but long story short, i ended up looking like the riddler, asking her a bunch of questions to get her to talk.

I spent two days down in miami, in the same house. She didn't know i "liked" her until her uncle and his bro kept teasing her about me by saying things like " MEG, YOUR BOYFRIEND IS HERE!" or " So since he is to shy, are you going to make the first move on him?" in which she would reply " psshh... im good..." thats when i knew she didn't like me like that.

Too be honest, i don't even really like her, i don't know why im so nervous around her. I think its because I feel as if her family is pressuring me to make an unnatural move on this girl, when i don't feel its right.

Her bro and uncle tried to convince me she just wants me to chase her, but i dont think so...


Its pretty obvious she isnt into me, but i want to make things less weird between us.My question is even though its super awkward between us because of her uncle and me being so nervous around her( i was never good at talking to girls who play " the game "), i was wondering if anyone could give me advice on what to say or how to act around her next time i see her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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djinhell

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Just be cool. Theres no need to feel pressure, it takes the fun out of everything.

Just treat it as a bit of a laugh and a joke...take it light hearted...the sooner you relax, the better you will feel, and undoubtedly she will feel relaxed around you...

and if she is one of those chicks who takes herself way too seriously, just laugh at that aswell!

DJ IN HELL
 

King Turi

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Tell her you feel weird since her uncle and her bro are like forcing you to bust a move on her.

Then tell her you would have already except you don't like bein' told what to do.
 
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