You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It's OVER for EqualOpportunityCels.I don't get with any woman, including blacks (who tend to like whites and other races anyway and ignore me too, lol!) so I wouldn't know. I'm like equal opportunity rejected. You can at least get black girls.
However, what I can say this, working full time can be challenging because it means there is less personal time, especially if the pay is not that great with the cost of living crises in all that. Chances are, she's being paid minimum wage or some low pay and she's getting allot of attitude at work.
It makes me grateful for where I'm working at. I'm talking to two different ladies at work who are nice/decent with me. I asked out another girl earlier, and even if I'm not talking with her, there were no serious reprocussions for doing that to make me regret it. There is no real "attitude" from other co-workers or management (ie at least the type that she's talking about), and I feel positive about my job as a whole.
I do come to relalize that there ar worst jobs out there, in terms of wages, and in terms of social dynamics that can be toxic. However, there are laws, and if a workplace is that bad, then she could quit the job with cause and apply for EI benefits (provided she worked the minimum time there).
Fixed.I don't get with any women
Okay, any other "Black" guy is free to reply to the OP's question. I can't answer his question since I don't deal with Black women (ie but not because I don't like to deal with Black women, of course).Fixed.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If we're talking Black American women(Especially ones in The Deep South), then I'm sad to report the answer is a resounding "Yes"She talks like a sailor, and seems to hate the idea of having to work, as an existential dread akin to a "nightmare".