"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A question for the Black men - do most Black women have such a terrible attitude as this one?

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She talks like a sailor, and seems to hate the idea of having to work, as an existential dread akin to a "nightmare". :rolleyes:

 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't get with any woman, including blacks (who tend to like whites and other races anyway and ignore me too, lol!) so I wouldn't know. I'm like equal opportunity rejected. You can at least get black girls.

However, what I can say this, working full time can be challenging because it means there is less personal time, especially if the pay is not that great with the cost of living crises in all that. Chances are, she's being paid minimum wage or some low pay and she's getting allot of attitude at work.

It makes me grateful for where I'm working at. I'm talking to two different ladies at work who are nice/decent with me. I asked out another girl earlier, and even if I'm not talking with her, there were no serious reprocussions for doing that to make me regret it. There is no real "attitude" from other co-workers or management (ie at least the type that she's talking about), and I feel positive about my job as a whole.

I do come to relalize that there ar worst jobs out there, in terms of wages, and in terms of social dynamics that can be toxic. However, there are laws, and if a workplace is that bad, then she could quit the job with cause and apply for EI benefits (provided she worked the minimum time there).
 

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I don't get with any woman, including blacks (who tend to like whites and other races anyway and ignore me too, lol!) so I wouldn't know. I'm like equal opportunity rejected. You can at least get black girls.

However, what I can say this, working full time can be challenging because it means there is less personal time, especially if the pay is not that great with the cost of living crises in all that. Chances are, she's being paid minimum wage or some low pay and she's getting allot of attitude at work.

It makes me grateful for where I'm working at. I'm talking to two different ladies at work who are nice/decent with me. I asked out another girl earlier, and even if I'm not talking with her, there were no serious reprocussions for doing that to make me regret it. There is no real "attitude" from other co-workers or management (ie at least the type that she's talking about), and I feel positive about my job as a whole.

I do come to relalize that there ar worst jobs out there, in terms of wages, and in terms of social dynamics that can be toxic. However, there are laws, and if a workplace is that bad, then she could quit the job with cause and apply for EI benefits (provided she worked the minimum time there).
It's OVER for EqualOpportunityCels.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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