"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A Quandary.. Sexual v. Real relationship.

Da Game

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Alright, here's the situation I'm in. There are two girls interested in me right now, and I can only choose one (they aren't friends, but have enough mutual acquaintances that if I tried for both it wouldn't work).

Girl A is interested in me exclusively sexually - I know she'll sleep with me, but I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a relationship. She's also really dumb, so that it's almost impossible to have a decent conversation with her. If I slept with her, it would probably be a fling, then over.

Girl B wants to date me, and I like her personality quite a bit. She's smart enough to have a conversation with, and is generally pretty cool. However, I know she won't have sex before marriage and is generally prude, according to a past boyfriend.

The girls are almost exactly equally good looking - I'd put them both at an 8. I'm leaning somewhat towards B, but I'm interested in other people's opinions.

Another question: If I do choose B, what's the best way to tell off A without being mean about it? If I choose A, is there any possible way I could still make a relationship work with B? (I'm fairly sure that if I slept with A, B would be pissed and not date me).

Thanks for your help, everyone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blienk

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What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
 

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I'd choose be. If you wanna **** someone, go get a hooker. If you really care about this chick, then you'll wait until she's ready. As other's have said, keep up the DJing, but tone it down a bit in LTRs. I'm an AFC speaking, so don't take it seriously if you want except for the quote some master DJ said.
 

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Originally posted by blienk
What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
The reason I posted is because I don't know what I want, or at least I'm divided, so I'm asking for other people's opinions so that I can better formulate my own. I don't need someone to make the decision for me, I want more information so I make a good decision myself.
 
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I would definately pick B in a second. I think if B has a really cool personality and you enjoy being with her, it is worth to give the relationship a try and have a lot of fun instead of having one night of fun with some boring girl. But thats just me personally, nobody can decide what to do except for you, go with what you really want.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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