"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A Quandary.. Sexual v. Real relationship.

Da Game

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Alright, here's the situation I'm in. There are two girls interested in me right now, and I can only choose one (they aren't friends, but have enough mutual acquaintances that if I tried for both it wouldn't work).

Girl A is interested in me exclusively sexually - I know she'll sleep with me, but I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a relationship. She's also really dumb, so that it's almost impossible to have a decent conversation with her. If I slept with her, it would probably be a fling, then over.

Girl B wants to date me, and I like her personality quite a bit. She's smart enough to have a conversation with, and is generally pretty cool. However, I know she won't have sex before marriage and is generally prude, according to a past boyfriend.

The girls are almost exactly equally good looking - I'd put them both at an 8. I'm leaning somewhat towards B, but I'm interested in other people's opinions.

Another question: If I do choose B, what's the best way to tell off A without being mean about it? If I choose A, is there any possible way I could still make a relationship work with B? (I'm fairly sure that if I slept with A, B would be pissed and not date me).

Thanks for your help, everyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
 

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I'd choose be. If you wanna **** someone, go get a hooker. If you really care about this chick, then you'll wait until she's ready. As other's have said, keep up the DJing, but tone it down a bit in LTRs. I'm an AFC speaking, so don't take it seriously if you want except for the quote some master DJ said.
 

Da Game

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Originally posted by blienk
What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
The reason I posted is because I don't know what I want, or at least I'm divided, so I'm asking for other people's opinions so that I can better formulate my own. I don't need someone to make the decision for me, I want more information so I make a good decision myself.
 
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I would definately pick B in a second. I think if B has a really cool personality and you enjoy being with her, it is worth to give the relationship a try and have a lot of fun instead of having one night of fun with some boring girl. But thats just me personally, nobody can decide what to do except for you, go with what you really want.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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