"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A Quandary.. Sexual v. Real relationship.

Da Game

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Alright, here's the situation I'm in. There are two girls interested in me right now, and I can only choose one (they aren't friends, but have enough mutual acquaintances that if I tried for both it wouldn't work).

Girl A is interested in me exclusively sexually - I know she'll sleep with me, but I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a relationship. She's also really dumb, so that it's almost impossible to have a decent conversation with her. If I slept with her, it would probably be a fling, then over.

Girl B wants to date me, and I like her personality quite a bit. She's smart enough to have a conversation with, and is generally pretty cool. However, I know she won't have sex before marriage and is generally prude, according to a past boyfriend.

The girls are almost exactly equally good looking - I'd put them both at an 8. I'm leaning somewhat towards B, but I'm interested in other people's opinions.

Another question: If I do choose B, what's the best way to tell off A without being mean about it? If I choose A, is there any possible way I could still make a relationship work with B? (I'm fairly sure that if I slept with A, B would be pissed and not date me).

Thanks for your help, everyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
 

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I'd choose be. If you wanna **** someone, go get a hooker. If you really care about this chick, then you'll wait until she's ready. As other's have said, keep up the DJing, but tone it down a bit in LTRs. I'm an AFC speaking, so don't take it seriously if you want except for the quote some master DJ said.
 

Da Game

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Originally posted by blienk
What do YOU want? We can't make this decision for you.
The reason I posted is because I don't know what I want, or at least I'm divided, so I'm asking for other people's opinions so that I can better formulate my own. I don't need someone to make the decision for me, I want more information so I make a good decision myself.
 
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I would definately pick B in a second. I think if B has a really cool personality and you enjoy being with her, it is worth to give the relationship a try and have a lot of fun instead of having one night of fun with some boring girl. But thats just me personally, nobody can decide what to do except for you, go with what you really want.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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