Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
we were fondling like crazy trust meGubby said:Advance physically, not verbally. Verbally she can be full of sh'it but if you're making out with her, fondling her, grinding her with your crotch and she likes it... you know she's serious. Then just lead her to the place and **** her. And use protection man, jees, she must have some pretty nasty diseases....
LOL... what? this chapter is over. Skip might get a break, there might be a sequel, but this chapter is over. You can't win 'em all.CraigMack said:She is probably playing with your emotions. She knows she is hot and that you want it. She gets off on getting you hot and horny and then telling you it might not happen.
It is the old carrot and a stick routine and you are the jack-ass constantly moving and chasing after that carrot.
Now look in the mirror and ask yourself how it feels. Then get mad. Then play the game a bit harder with her. Back away and watch her jump.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
maybe...skip2mylou781 said:does it turn you on sexually to call people trolls?
im thr troll patrol, i point out trolls whenever I see them and they get banned the next day, so dont worry I got it all taken care of
lolskip2mylou781 said:does it turn you on sexually to call people trolls?
im thr troll patrol, i point out trolls whenever I see them and they get banned the next day, so dont worry I got it all taken care of
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jigga23 said:i didnt read any replies but ive been in the same exact situation as you. this psyscho b!tch that i acutally ended up with in a 2 yr ltr was the same exact way. she came out saying straight up thats shes been with 40 dudes. always saying she wants to fvck me always trying to suck my d1ck when i drive etc. i would never let her though. we would sleep together etc then one night i was wasted and finally fvcked her. but the point is i never made any advances on her ever she was use to that from other guys but i was different. she even said i drove her crazy cause i wouldnt let her do anything and make no advances. so dont go saying things to her like i wanna fvck you or anything cause guarantee you wont if you do.
Good post.jigga23 said:i didnt read any replies but ive been in the same exact situation as you. this psyscho b!tch that i acutally ended up with in a 2 yr ltr was the same exact way. she came out saying straight up thats shes been with 40 dudes. always saying she wants to fvck me always trying to suck my d1ck when i drive etc. i would never let her though. we would sleep together etc then one night i was wasted and finally fvcked her. but the point is i never made any advances on her ever she was use to that from other guys but i was different. she even said i drove her crazy cause i wouldnt let her do anything and make no advances. so dont go saying things to her like i wanna fvck you or anything cause guarantee you wont if you do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.