Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A Guy Giving You Sh1T

instantnoodles

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Sosuave,

How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?

This was someone I used to care about and respect. Now everything has gotten to a point where I'm fed up and need to put him back in his place and stand my ground.

Do I freeze him out? I haven't fed his hamster in ages. It's been around 4 days I stopped texting him. I want to "out-game" his game, so to speak. I already got a nice wall up.

Thanks Everyone, Help a N:):)dle
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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foreverAFC

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i dont date men so i wouldnt know
 

TheCWord

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Can you elaborate on what text games he's playing and how he is overall disrespecting you?
 

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It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
 

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You want to play games to get a drama fix. Recognize that first. Ignore him forever. Anything else you are giving attention, which he wants.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheCWord

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instantnoodles said:
It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
I'm sure there are plenty of guys here willing to help you, but you're going to need to give us some specifics.
 

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instantnoodles said:
Sosuave,

How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?

This was someone I used to care about and respect. Now everything has gotten to a point where I'm fed up and need to put him back in his place and stand my ground.

Do I freeze him out? I haven't fed his hamster in ages. It's been around 4 days I stopped texting him. I want to "out-game" his game, so to speak. I already got a nice wall up.

Thanks Everyone, Help a N:):)dle
This is a forum for straight men, so I doubt you'd get much advice regarding your problem. On second thought, you may want to PM Gaylan.
 

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Ignore it; no response can be the most frustrating thing to someone who is trying to attack you.
 

instantnoodles

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Vice said:
Ignore it; no response can be the most frustrating thing to someone who is trying to attack you.
LorenzoVonM said:
You want to play games to get a drama fix. Recognize that first. Ignore him forever. Anything else you are giving attention, which he wants.

Thanks Vice and Lorenzo. You're right. I'll just stop the texts like I been doing. It's also a less problematic way. I must add that the only time I will respond is if there is something very important to be said as well as if he initiates :)
 

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Secondarily,
instantnoodles said:
It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
Everything under the sun is gender-specific.

A common misconception among the handful of women here is that what works with women also works with men. In reality, techniques that men must use in order to effectively deal with women almost always backfire when women use them in their dealings with men.

I will repeat it... All things under the sun are gender-specific.

Secondarily, when you say "How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?", there is no way anyone can advise you without specific examples. We're not mind readers. Your refusal to give specifics concretely shows that you wrote your post because you were bored and wanted a little attention fix. Oops, bait taken....
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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when you say you haven't fed his hamster, are we talking about an actual animal here? cuz that sounds like abuse, and I may need to call the ASPCA
 
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