"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A Guy Giving You Sh1T

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Sosuave,

How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?

This was someone I used to care about and respect. Now everything has gotten to a point where I'm fed up and need to put him back in his place and stand my ground.

Do I freeze him out? I haven't fed his hamster in ages. It's been around 4 days I stopped texting him. I want to "out-game" his game, so to speak. I already got a nice wall up.

Thanks Everyone, Help a N:):)dle
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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foreverAFC

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i dont date men so i wouldnt know
 

TheCWord

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Can you elaborate on what text games he's playing and how he is overall disrespecting you?
 

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It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
 

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You want to play games to get a drama fix. Recognize that first. Ignore him forever. Anything else you are giving attention, which he wants.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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instantnoodles said:
It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
I'm sure there are plenty of guys here willing to help you, but you're going to need to give us some specifics.
 

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instantnoodles said:
Sosuave,

How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?

This was someone I used to care about and respect. Now everything has gotten to a point where I'm fed up and need to put him back in his place and stand my ground.

Do I freeze him out? I haven't fed his hamster in ages. It's been around 4 days I stopped texting him. I want to "out-game" his game, so to speak. I already got a nice wall up.

Thanks Everyone, Help a N:):)dle
This is a forum for straight men, so I doubt you'd get much advice regarding your problem. On second thought, you may want to PM Gaylan.
 

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Ignore it; no response can be the most frustrating thing to someone who is trying to attack you.
 

instantnoodles

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Vice said:
Ignore it; no response can be the most frustrating thing to someone who is trying to attack you.
LorenzoVonM said:
You want to play games to get a drama fix. Recognize that first. Ignore him forever. Anything else you are giving attention, which he wants.

Thanks Vice and Lorenzo. You're right. I'll just stop the texts like I been doing. It's also a less problematic way. I must add that the only time I will respond is if there is something very important to be said as well as if he initiates :)
 

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Secondarily,
instantnoodles said:
It doesn't matter if you date men, just take it in a general aspect. Has nothing to do with gender specifics

I really want to cut these games in two.
Everything under the sun is gender-specific.

A common misconception among the handful of women here is that what works with women also works with men. In reality, techniques that men must use in order to effectively deal with women almost always backfire when women use them in their dealings with men.

I will repeat it... All things under the sun are gender-specific.

Secondarily, when you say "How do you respond to a guy playing games (stupid text games precisely), and some disrespect?", there is no way anyone can advise you without specific examples. We're not mind readers. Your refusal to give specifics concretely shows that you wrote your post because you were bored and wanted a little attention fix. Oops, bait taken....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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when you say you haven't fed his hamster, are we talking about an actual animal here? cuz that sounds like abuse, and I may need to call the ASPCA
 
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