Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A good question for the 40 and over crowd.

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Age being used as a cutoff is a self-limiting belief. Does she pass the boner test? Does she have obvious red flags that you should disqualify her over?
 

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
19. Though I met her when she was 18.
 

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
Too many things are restricted to 21 & up.
 

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I wouldn't date anyone under 21. I like bars and drinking so I don't want that hassle. 22 was the youngest I ever dated and that was in my mid 30's.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Currently dating a 26 year old, was dating a 24 year old when I was 39, not gonna lie she had the nicest pair of cakes but she dumped me cause I'm a Trump supporter lool
 

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Currently dating a 26 year old, was dating a 24 year old when I was 39, not gonna lie she had the nicest pair of cakes but she dumped me cause I'm a Trump supporter lool
my Zoomer was a typical Wokester & I’m Conservative. She told me. ‘We’re already together, the politics doesn’t matter.’
 

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my Zoomer was a typical Wokester & I’m Conservative. She told me. ‘We’re already together, the politics doesn’t matter.’
Good for you bro, my girl did not like it when I said some things about gay people needless to say she identifies as "Queer" which baffles me cause the way she was thirsting for sex there was nothing queer about her
 

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Good for you bro, my girl did not like it when I said some things about gay people needless to say she identifies as "Queer" which baffles me cause the way she was thirsting for sex there was nothing queer about her
Mine was a LGBTQ ally. She said she wished she was a lesbian. But she loved dvck too much. Once, when drunk, she suggested a 3-some with one of my ex-‘s. I went out drinking with the ex- and brought it up. She was into it. I called my Zoomer, who was now sober and got ready to set it up. She backed out. And then forbade me from speaking about that ex- to her again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ha, you and I are the same age and I have always been a rule follower. I would probably feel guilty dating a woman under 30 since "I am breaking the rule".

However, early 30's would still be like hitting the jackpot. Many women at this age still look pretty hot and don't have kids.
Doesn't necessarily mean I actually date at that age, just a rule of thumb I follow. I did have a match on OLD dating and she was 26, talked on an off for a while, but she was going back to Vietnam for a holiday. She did say she saw me at a local pub, to bad she didn't come up and say hello.
 

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Had a gf 10 yrs younger than me when I was in my late 20s, have a 9 yrs younger gf now that I'm in my late 30s.

Your age depends on your hair, a norwood 4 brad pitt would play only secondary roles and be couple with older women.
 

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I think (provided she's of legal age) that it's more a matter of personal preference.

Personally, I prefer women around my age. However, at age thirty two, I did have a girlfriend that was eighteen.

While with her one day, I remember listening to the "oldies" station. A song came on that I remember hearing for the first time in 5th grade. I remember thinking to myself that she was not only born yet, but that her parents may not have even met yet. Even though she was nice 'arm candy'... there were times when I did feel like a creepy old man. On a funny note; While with her, I did enjoy the glares and snares that I'd get from women around my age.

edit; And in addition to bedroom fun (I was her first) she did turn me on to Beavis and Butthead and the group "Stereolab."
 
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At 40, I could see myself with a 21-22 year old. I'd have interest in that. 18-20 would be more difficult for me if I'd want to go out to bars.

Half my age + 7 is 27. I would go out with women younger than 27 right now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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At my age right now...

For an LTR, I wouldn't go lower than 25.

For fun and sexual satisfaction, I could go as low as 21.
 

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No, look at Bruce Willis, Jude Law, etc. They are successful actors and they probably have no problem dating hot young women.

You guys put too much importance on hair, I'm 37 I still have my hair but my hairline is receiding and it's quite visible, I date a 19yo Slovakian model.
Of course I fear baldness, but I think that even bald, with my swag and mouth piece I would still attract hot girls. I'm 6.2 though, height is more important than hair in my opinion, especially if you date tall girls like I do (5.8-5.11).
I asked a friend of mine what he would do if he was balding. He said: ‘Buy hair. Or a gun.’
 

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She dumped you cause you were not her best option, crazy that a guy with experience like you didn't recognize that and believed whatever bull$hit she told you.
So you were there in the room when she broke up with right? you know what led up to the fight?
SMH I ain't even gotta explain you weren't there so you don't know what the **** you talking about
 

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No need to get defensive bro, do you really think a girl would breake up with Brad Pritt cause he supports Trump? Come on man!
If you live in a red state I understand where you might think that, but if you’re in a purple or blue state it’s quite likely.

Here in Californistan women often even state up front that if you support <insert politician’s name> they want nothing to do with you.

It’s real. The Brad comparison is ridiculous no one here has anywhere near his social proof.
 

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If you live in a red state I understand where you might think that, but if you’re in a purple or blue state it’s quite likely.

Here in Californistan women often even state up front that if you support <insert politician’s name> they want nothing to do with you.

It’s real. The Brad comparison is ridiculous no one here has anywhere near his social proof.
I’ve found women tend to make exceptions to their rules when they want to.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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