"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A good question for the 40 and over crowd.

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Age being used as a cutoff is a self-limiting belief. Does she pass the boner test? Does she have obvious red flags that you should disqualify her over?
 

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
19. Though I met her when she was 18.
 

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What's the youngest you have ever dated someone i've been in the position to date a 18 year old but didn't go through I think the cut off of me is 21 years young.
Too many things are restricted to 21 & up.
 

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I wouldn't date anyone under 21. I like bars and drinking so I don't want that hassle. 22 was the youngest I ever dated and that was in my mid 30's.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Currently dating a 26 year old, was dating a 24 year old when I was 39, not gonna lie she had the nicest pair of cakes but she dumped me cause I'm a Trump supporter lool
 

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Currently dating a 26 year old, was dating a 24 year old when I was 39, not gonna lie she had the nicest pair of cakes but she dumped me cause I'm a Trump supporter lool
my Zoomer was a typical Wokester & I’m Conservative. She told me. ‘We’re already together, the politics doesn’t matter.’
 

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my Zoomer was a typical Wokester & I’m Conservative. She told me. ‘We’re already together, the politics doesn’t matter.’
Good for you bro, my girl did not like it when I said some things about gay people needless to say she identifies as "Queer" which baffles me cause the way she was thirsting for sex there was nothing queer about her
 

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Good for you bro, my girl did not like it when I said some things about gay people needless to say she identifies as "Queer" which baffles me cause the way she was thirsting for sex there was nothing queer about her
Mine was a LGBTQ ally. She said she wished she was a lesbian. But she loved dvck too much. Once, when drunk, she suggested a 3-some with one of my ex-‘s. I went out drinking with the ex- and brought it up. She was into it. I called my Zoomer, who was now sober and got ready to set it up. She backed out. And then forbade me from speaking about that ex- to her again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ha, you and I are the same age and I have always been a rule follower. I would probably feel guilty dating a woman under 30 since "I am breaking the rule".

However, early 30's would still be like hitting the jackpot. Many women at this age still look pretty hot and don't have kids.
Doesn't necessarily mean I actually date at that age, just a rule of thumb I follow. I did have a match on OLD dating and she was 26, talked on an off for a while, but she was going back to Vietnam for a holiday. She did say she saw me at a local pub, to bad she didn't come up and say hello.
 

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Had a gf 10 yrs younger than me when I was in my late 20s, have a 9 yrs younger gf now that I'm in my late 30s.

Your age depends on your hair, a norwood 4 brad pitt would play only secondary roles and be couple with older women.
 

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I think (provided she's of legal age) that it's more a matter of personal preference.

Personally, I prefer women around my age. However, at age thirty two, I did have a girlfriend that was eighteen.

While with her one day, I remember listening to the "oldies" station. A song came on that I remember hearing for the first time in 5th grade. I remember thinking to myself that she was not only born yet, but that her parents may not have even met yet. Even though she was nice 'arm candy'... there were times when I did feel like a creepy old man. On a funny note; While with her, I did enjoy the glares and snares that I'd get from women around my age.

edit; And in addition to bedroom fun (I was her first) she did turn me on to Beavis and Butthead and the group "Stereolab."
 
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At 40, I could see myself with a 21-22 year old. I'd have interest in that. 18-20 would be more difficult for me if I'd want to go out to bars.

Half my age + 7 is 27. I would go out with women younger than 27 right now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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At my age right now...

For an LTR, I wouldn't go lower than 25.

For fun and sexual satisfaction, I could go as low as 21.
 

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No, look at Bruce Willis, Jude Law, etc. They are successful actors and they probably have no problem dating hot young women.

You guys put too much importance on hair, I'm 37 I still have my hair but my hairline is receiding and it's quite visible, I date a 19yo Slovakian model.
Of course I fear baldness, but I think that even bald, with my swag and mouth piece I would still attract hot girls. I'm 6.2 though, height is more important than hair in my opinion, especially if you date tall girls like I do (5.8-5.11).
I asked a friend of mine what he would do if he was balding. He said: ‘Buy hair. Or a gun.’
 

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She dumped you cause you were not her best option, crazy that a guy with experience like you didn't recognize that and believed whatever bull$hit she told you.
So you were there in the room when she broke up with right? you know what led up to the fight?
SMH I ain't even gotta explain you weren't there so you don't know what the **** you talking about
 

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No need to get defensive bro, do you really think a girl would breake up with Brad Pritt cause he supports Trump? Come on man!
If you live in a red state I understand where you might think that, but if you’re in a purple or blue state it’s quite likely.

Here in Californistan women often even state up front that if you support <insert politician’s name> they want nothing to do with you.

It’s real. The Brad comparison is ridiculous no one here has anywhere near his social proof.
 

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If you live in a red state I understand where you might think that, but if you’re in a purple or blue state it’s quite likely.

Here in Californistan women often even state up front that if you support <insert politician’s name> they want nothing to do with you.

It’s real. The Brad comparison is ridiculous no one here has anywhere near his social proof.
I’ve found women tend to make exceptions to their rules when they want to.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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