"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Leporello

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So last week I met a girl for about half an hour in a coffee shop. Conversations wasn’t bad, considering that this was our first meting..

The entire time, she did the nervous-laugh and not-looking-at-me thing. I’d usually just chalk that up to shyness, but when I walked her back to the metro, she seemed reluctant to stand too close to me, and it made me nervous.

Any ideas as to what’s going on, and whether I should be worried?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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icallug

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if you just met her you have no need to worry, just go on and try it again with someone else.
 

Leporello

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Whoah, hold on. Should I really give up on her that easily?
 

blienk

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Yes, because the things you mentioned are signs of non-interest and it's unlikely you can do anything to change that.
 

Leporello

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I might mention that, as she was leaving, she did hug me trwice, and agree to see me again.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DirkPitt

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describe the hug...

and her boob size and also post her number.

haha seroiusly, what kind of hug? 1 arm? 2 arm?
 

Leporello

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Uhh... 2 arm, I think. I really don't remember.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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If she already consented to a second date, then I see no reason to suspect a lack of interest. You might however mention to her that the last time you two had the pleasure of enjoying each other's company she seemed a bit distracted. :)
 

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Originally posted by DirkPitt
haha seroiusly, what kind of hug? 1 arm? 2 arm?
Whats the difference?
 

JoeyJoJoJunior

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Whats the difference?
Think about it. If a girl holds two arms open and smiles when offering it, she means it. If she does a "hug and run" as I like to call it, sorta pattin you on the back with 1 arm and then its over, she probably didn't mean it and did it to be nice.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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