"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Leporello

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So last week I met a girl for about half an hour in a coffee shop. Conversations wasn’t bad, considering that this was our first meting..

The entire time, she did the nervous-laugh and not-looking-at-me thing. I’d usually just chalk that up to shyness, but when I walked her back to the metro, she seemed reluctant to stand too close to me, and it made me nervous.

Any ideas as to what’s going on, and whether I should be worried?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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icallug

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if you just met her you have no need to worry, just go on and try it again with someone else.
 

Leporello

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Whoah, hold on. Should I really give up on her that easily?
 

blienk

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Yes, because the things you mentioned are signs of non-interest and it's unlikely you can do anything to change that.
 

Leporello

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I might mention that, as she was leaving, she did hug me trwice, and agree to see me again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DirkPitt

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describe the hug...

and her boob size and also post her number.

haha seroiusly, what kind of hug? 1 arm? 2 arm?
 

Leporello

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Uhh... 2 arm, I think. I really don't remember.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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If she already consented to a second date, then I see no reason to suspect a lack of interest. You might however mention to her that the last time you two had the pleasure of enjoying each other's company she seemed a bit distracted. :)
 

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Originally posted by DirkPitt
haha seroiusly, what kind of hug? 1 arm? 2 arm?
Whats the difference?
 

JoeyJoJoJunior

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Whats the difference?
Think about it. If a girl holds two arms open and smiles when offering it, she means it. If she does a "hug and run" as I like to call it, sorta pattin you on the back with 1 arm and then its over, she probably didn't mean it and did it to be nice.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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