"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hello!
This girl in my class, our personalities fit together. The first time I saw her, I was maybe in love, but I dunno. That day I saw her, the only thing I could think of was her and I was thinking of making a song to her. But the same day, the casanova at my swimteam said he was hitting on her, so I gave up cause I knew that he would take him before me.

So they dated, but they didn't fit together. And I was functioning like a messenger between them and I told the girl that she could give up on the casanova, and so she did. I was hitting a bit on her and now, a special situation has become.

When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.

Is this a sign? Should I go for her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".
Do you end up going with her?

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.
Yeah....so...is she doing it for a reason?
 

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No i didn't end up going with her, and I don't know the reason for not making eye-contact, but I know she did it with purpose.
 

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ROFL, this is pretty pathetic, read the dj bible, move on she dosne have intrest.
 

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what do you other DJ's have to say?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Let me ask you this, what do you consider to be hitting on her?
 

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jokin with her, I've got a special humour and with my humour, i can tell them jokes about themselves and make them laugh about themselves, such... I can't explain it. I also tease her, using kino, etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ug, you thought you were in love with her?!? dude big mistake, it doesnt look like she has any interest,next her and move on

Get to reading the dj bible
 

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sbgm said:
Hello!
This girl in my class, our personalities fit together. The first time I saw her, I was maybe in love, but I dunno. That day I saw her, the only thing I could think of was her and I was thinking of making a song to her. But the same day, the casanova at my swimteam said he was hitting on her, so I gave up cause I knew that he would take him before me.

So they dated, but they didn't fit together. And I was functioning like a messenger between them and I told the girl that she could give up on the casanova, and so she did. I was hitting a bit on her and now, a special situation has become.

When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.

Is this a sign? Should I go for her?
Opposite. You were not in love with her, you are infatuated. Also, every single one of those things you listed was a sign of disinterest. If she was interested: she'd want you to go to the library with her, she would not move
away when you kino her, and she would hold eye contact, or if she was shy she might giggle when she looked away. Forget it, dude. Her IL isn't high.
 

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been there done that

I had one like that ,sorta, cept she liked me. For some reason everyone made me not talk to her( was alittle weird-like me). NEXTUP!
 

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you better not write a song for her

that's the most AFC sh!t i've ever heard..

and yes, go for her...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I would try the song idea, than maybe a giant pink teddy bear holding a heart shaped box of chocolates with a note containing a confession of your undieing love for her. If that doesn't work than try playing peter gabriel on a boom box standing outside her bedroom window at eleven at night. Hell why not just ask her to marry you?

Either go for it and see what happens, or just get over her dude.
 

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thank you guys, thats just what i needed...
... i think i'm gonna read the DJ Bible...
 
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