Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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sbgm

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Hello!
This girl in my class, our personalities fit together. The first time I saw her, I was maybe in love, but I dunno. That day I saw her, the only thing I could think of was her and I was thinking of making a song to her. But the same day, the casanova at my swimteam said he was hitting on her, so I gave up cause I knew that he would take him before me.

So they dated, but they didn't fit together. And I was functioning like a messenger between them and I told the girl that she could give up on the casanova, and so she did. I was hitting a bit on her and now, a special situation has become.

When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.

Is this a sign? Should I go for her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".
Do you end up going with her?

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.
Yeah....so...is she doing it for a reason?
 

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No i didn't end up going with her, and I don't know the reason for not making eye-contact, but I know she did it with purpose.
 

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ROFL, this is pretty pathetic, read the dj bible, move on she dosne have intrest.
 

sbgm

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what do you other DJ's have to say?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Black Circle

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Let me ask you this, what do you consider to be hitting on her?
 

sbgm

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jokin with her, I've got a special humour and with my humour, i can tell them jokes about themselves and make them laugh about themselves, such... I can't explain it. I also tease her, using kino, etc
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ug, you thought you were in love with her?!? dude big mistake, it doesnt look like she has any interest,next her and move on

Get to reading the dj bible
 

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sbgm said:
Hello!
This girl in my class, our personalities fit together. The first time I saw her, I was maybe in love, but I dunno. That day I saw her, the only thing I could think of was her and I was thinking of making a song to her. But the same day, the casanova at my swimteam said he was hitting on her, so I gave up cause I knew that he would take him before me.

So they dated, but they didn't fit together. And I was functioning like a messenger between them and I told the girl that she could give up on the casanova, and so she did. I was hitting a bit on her and now, a special situation has become.

When I kino her, she moves away - but in a teasy way, and when she says like "Oh, I don't wanna go alone to the library" i said "I can go with you" then she teased me and said "No, I rather go alone then".

Today, she told the table where we were sitting that she would change class. I looked at her, and she totally avoided eye-contact.

Is this a sign? Should I go for her?
Opposite. You were not in love with her, you are infatuated. Also, every single one of those things you listed was a sign of disinterest. If she was interested: she'd want you to go to the library with her, she would not move
away when you kino her, and she would hold eye contact, or if she was shy she might giggle when she looked away. Forget it, dude. Her IL isn't high.
 

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been there done that

I had one like that ,sorta, cept she liked me. For some reason everyone made me not talk to her( was alittle weird-like me). NEXTUP!
 

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you better not write a song for her

that's the most AFC sh!t i've ever heard..

and yes, go for her...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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donjuanjovi

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I would try the song idea, than maybe a giant pink teddy bear holding a heart shaped box of chocolates with a note containing a confession of your undieing love for her. If that doesn't work than try playing peter gabriel on a boom box standing outside her bedroom window at eleven at night. Hell why not just ask her to marry you?

Either go for it and see what happens, or just get over her dude.
 

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thank you guys, thats just what i needed...
... i think i'm gonna read the DJ Bible...
 
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