"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A Girl I Really Like

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There's a girl i really like but I don't know if she likes me in the same way I do. So how can I find out if she does, but I think she knows I like her like that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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every 1 will tell you aks her out, and sure that will give you the definite answer but you are probalby not prepaired to do that. Talk to her and just read the signals you get, ask her to hang out with you sometime and see how she reacts, see how open she is to you, how she reacts to kino etc..

hope iv been a help
 

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Omg! You too?! I can relate man, I have this same exact problem.

Ok so we haven't been friends in awhile but I haven't ever stopped thinking about her. I mean, I try to do everything she wants and make her happy but I'm still not sure if she likes me. I think I'm gonna go tell her how I feel about her so she can tell me how she feels about me. I can't stop touching myself in class when I am reminded of her (even numbers look like her nice ass). Every time we talk I have this wierd feeling in my chest like I'm blocked and can't breathe or something. She's intoxicating. Wow, what a girl! We've only gone on dates in my head so far but soon we'll have a real one and I'll listen to all her guy problems and show that I am a sensitive caring guy.

Do you feel the same?!!?
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Omg! You too?! I can relate man, I have this same exact problem.

Ok so we haven't been friends in awhile but I haven't ever stopped thinking about her. I mean, I try to do everything she wants and make her happy but I'm still not sure if she likes me. I think I'm gonna go tell her how I feel about her so she can tell me how she feels about me. I can't stop touching myself in class when I am reminded of her (even numbers look like her nice ass). Every time we talk I have this wierd feeling in my chest like I'm blocked and can't breathe or something. She's intoxicating. Wow, what a girl! We've only gone on dates in my head so far but soon we'll have a real one and I'll listen to all her guy problems and show that I am a sensitive caring guy.

Do you feel the same?!!?
please tell me you are joking
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Omg! You too?! I can relate man, I have this same exact problem.

Ok so we haven't been friends in awhile but I haven't ever stopped thinking about her. I mean, I try to do everything she wants and make her happy but I'm still not sure if she likes me. I think I'm gonna go tell her how I feel about her so she can tell me how she feels about me. I can't stop touching myself in class when I am reminded of her (even numbers look like her nice ass). Every time we talk I have this wierd feeling in my chest like I'm blocked and can't breathe or something. She's intoxicating. Wow, what a girl! We've only gone on dates in my head so far but soon we'll have a real one and I'll listen to all her guy problems and show that I am a sensitive caring guy.

Do you feel the same?!!?
lol
that was hillarious
 

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Originally posted by Lonsome man
There's a girl i really like but I don't know if she likes me in the same way I do. So how can I find out if she does, but I think she knows I like her like that.
Ask her out as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the greater her chance of losing interest.
 

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hey that question has never been asked before k
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Lonsome man
There's a girl i really like but I don't know if she likes me in the same way I do. So how can I find out if she does, but I think she knows I like her like that.
Whoa buddy, you're going in circles here.

Sounds like you only have two options:

Option #1: tie your love note to a brick and throw it at her window.

Option #2: tie your love note to a brick and throw it at her face.

Hopefully, both will lead to the intended result.

OR

You can do the completely crazy, wild, untested, and unorthodox way and ask her out.... but who'd want to do that when you could have brick fun?
 
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