She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Judging from your post count, you look new, so I will translateAnnaBee said:
ER!C L!VE said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
there are different forums for different age groups and different types of advice...
Yes, the looks do matter as far as the type of answer you get. Someone who is a HB8-9 will have different experiences and answers since they are more often approached and macked on. They will say that all they have to do to get a guy (fool) running up to her is to just look good. Whereas someone who is a HB3-4 who has a house full of cats and Harlequin romance novels and probably hasn't been approached since Junior High school will have totally different advice (being a nice guy actually works on these types).AnnaBee said:Blackmm
Umm, in that case, I'm about a HB 7-8? Does that really matter though? And, sorry, not posting pictures, what is this....Myspace?
It has more to do with their experiences and maturity than it does their age. There are some bitter men here no doubt, and when you see one post, its blatently obvious. For example, the most bitter guy I know here is also one of the oldest.AnnaBee said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ey I'm not new, just new accountazanon said:
I agree, I barely got here but why would I want to take a womens adivce on something about picking up women? Granted some people may say that she will help since she is a women she can figure out what women want, but that isnt the case yes she is a women but every women has different tastes so her "Advice" only pertains to her tastes. I dont understand why women come to this site though, weird I would have thought the would be Les, or trans so the can game on other girls not give guy's advice on picking up chics, but to each his own I guess.joey2times said:
Learn to be more grammatically sound first. There are also differences with there, thier and they're. What are they?AnnaBee said:Sooo, I heard from a friend of mine who said she used to come to this sight to help you guys out with your female issues and questions. So I thought I'd give it a go as well, if anyone is interested. Soo, any questions? Anything's fare game
~AnnaBee
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
