You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Judging from your post count, you look new, so I will translateAnnaBee said:
ER!C L!VE said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
there are different forums for different age groups and different types of advice...
Yes, the looks do matter as far as the type of answer you get. Someone who is a HB8-9 will have different experiences and answers since they are more often approached and macked on. They will say that all they have to do to get a guy (fool) running up to her is to just look good. Whereas someone who is a HB3-4 who has a house full of cats and Harlequin romance novels and probably hasn't been approached since Junior High school will have totally different advice (being a nice guy actually works on these types).AnnaBee said:Blackmm
Umm, in that case, I'm about a HB 7-8? Does that really matter though? And, sorry, not posting pictures, what is this....Myspace?
It has more to do with their experiences and maturity than it does their age. There are some bitter men here no doubt, and when you see one post, its blatently obvious. For example, the most bitter guy I know here is also one of the oldest.AnnaBee said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ey I'm not new, just new accountazanon said:
I agree, I barely got here but why would I want to take a womens adivce on something about picking up women? Granted some people may say that she will help since she is a women she can figure out what women want, but that isnt the case yes she is a women but every women has different tastes so her "Advice" only pertains to her tastes. I dont understand why women come to this site though, weird I would have thought the would be Les, or trans so the can game on other girls not give guy's advice on picking up chics, but to each his own I guess.joey2times said:
Learn to be more grammatically sound first. There are also differences with there, thier and they're. What are they?AnnaBee said:Sooo, I heard from a friend of mine who said she used to come to this sight to help you guys out with your female issues and questions. So I thought I'd give it a go as well, if anyone is interested. Soo, any questions? Anything's fare game
~AnnaBee
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
