Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Judging from your post count, you look new, so I will translateAnnaBee said:
ER!C L!VE said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
there are different forums for different age groups and different types of advice...
Yes, the looks do matter as far as the type of answer you get. Someone who is a HB8-9 will have different experiences and answers since they are more often approached and macked on. They will say that all they have to do to get a guy (fool) running up to her is to just look good. Whereas someone who is a HB3-4 who has a house full of cats and Harlequin romance novels and probably hasn't been approached since Junior High school will have totally different advice (being a nice guy actually works on these types).AnnaBee said:Blackmm
Umm, in that case, I'm about a HB 7-8? Does that really matter though? And, sorry, not posting pictures, what is this....Myspace?
It has more to do with their experiences and maturity than it does their age. There are some bitter men here no doubt, and when you see one post, its blatently obvious. For example, the most bitter guy I know here is also one of the oldest.AnnaBee said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ey I'm not new, just new accountazanon said:
I agree, I barely got here but why would I want to take a womens adivce on something about picking up women? Granted some people may say that she will help since she is a women she can figure out what women want, but that isnt the case yes she is a women but every women has different tastes so her "Advice" only pertains to her tastes. I dont understand why women come to this site though, weird I would have thought the would be Les, or trans so the can game on other girls not give guy's advice on picking up chics, but to each his own I guess.joey2times said:
Learn to be more grammatically sound first. There are also differences with there, thier and they're. What are they?AnnaBee said:Sooo, I heard from a friend of mine who said she used to come to this sight to help you guys out with your female issues and questions. So I thought I'd give it a go as well, if anyone is interested. Soo, any questions? Anything's fare game
~AnnaBee
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
